Healing Through Divorce & Self-Abandonment: A Six-Week Course
Healing Through Divorce & Self-Abandonment: A Six-Week CourseThis is not a course about getting over someone.It is a course about understanding what you were actually healing from, and building the foundation inside yourself so that no one can take it away again.Healing Through Divorce and Self-Abandonment is a six-week self-paced course built from lived experience, the instructor's own 24-year marriage and divorce, and more than two decades of sitting with people through exactly this kind of pain. Every lesson, every tool, every story in here comes from somewhere real.The central premise is this: divorce and self-abandonment are the same wound. Before anyone else abandoned us, we abandoned ourselves, by believing that a person, a home, a role, or a certain kind of life would finally make us whole. This course traces that wound across six modules and gives you practical tools to begin healing it from the inside out.What is included:Six complete modules with full lesson scripts designed for self-guided reading or video delivery, a companion workbook with reflection prompts and writing exercises after every single lesson, and a Core Teaching summary for each topic so the most important ideas are always easy to find again.The six modules:Week One: How We Got Here. The fairy tale we were building before we knew it, the belief systems installed before we could evaluate them, the frequency we were operating at, and what we were actually grieving.Week Two: Self-Abandonment. The leftover coffee. The Sunday door and why we keep opening it. The generational patterns we absorbed without choosing them. And learning to know why we do what we do.Week Three: The Relationship Itself. Rowing the boat alone. Love languages and the communication gap. The difference between enabling and loving. Processing emotion before you have the conversation.Week Four: The Decision. Doing everything before you say. Why you do not need a villain to have a valid ending. The practical reality nobody prepares you for. Guilt, the kids, and staying for the wrong reasons.Week Five: After the Ending. The replacement wound. The shame that keeps secrets. Reconciliation without conversation is not repair. Healing feelings of failure.Week Six: Building Forward. Being single on purpose. Your relationship resume, what you bring and what you are still healing. Knowing the language before you need it. The relationship with yourself as the permanent one.The course also includes a dedicated resources page after the love languages lesson with links to two free assessments, the official Love Languages quiz and the 16 Personalities free test, so you have somewhere to go after the material lands.This course is for anyone who has left a relationship, was left, is still deciding, or is still figuring out what happened. It works for men and women both.Also from Intentional Healings:If you want to go deeper on the personal story behind this course, The Same Wound: A Memoir on Divorce, Self-Abandonment, and the Long Way Home is available separately and pairs naturally with this material.When you finish Week Six, Understanding Your Blueprint Workbook is the natural next step — a companion guide to love languages, personality types, and learning how to speak your truth in the relationships you build going forward. Both are available here.Velia Gutierrez, M.A., P.P.S., P.C.C.I., is a coach and writer who works with people navigating divorce, self-abandonment, and personal reinvention. Everything she teaches comes from something she has lived.
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